Online Test
Find out the severity of your symptoms with this free online test
Excessive Picking on breasts
So I’m a 20 year old college student and I’ve been excessively picking at my chest since high school. It started out as a form of self harm during my depression. Even though I’ve cured my depression, the skin picking has developed into a habit. Anytime I look down I just start picking. I’ve tried taking off my glasses so I can’t easily see, but I can’t do that all the time. It’s gotten to a point where I’ve started getting gross sores. I’ve tried putting bandaids on them, but it just softens the scab and peels it off when I change out the bandaids. I can’t even focus on my schoolwork because I just look down and start picking. I’m just sick of it and today I decided to wrap my breasts up in gauze (not binding, just wrapped them up individually) to cover up the damage. Is it ok for me to wrap up my chest so it can heal without me messing it up? How can I heal the sores without the scabs coming off?
Hello!
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this difficult situation. Picking at your chest can be a bother as it is so close to sight and easy to access. Also looking down, you can get easily distracted and tempted to pick.
Wrapping your chest with gauze can help protect the sores and prevent further damage, as long as it's done carefully and not too tightly, which could restrict circulation or physical discomfort. Make sure you are keeping an eye out for any infection and speak with your doctor to monitor any wounds or infections and guidance on how to promote healing.
It is great to hear that you have overcome your depression! This is proof that you are capable of accomplishing what you set your mind too. And it is no different for your skin picking. Have you tried any behavioural adjustment therapies (like CBT), replacement techniques or learning about your triggers?
Don't forget to be kind and patient with yourself. Healing takes time.
I’m so sorry you suffer from this. Just know that you are not alone and that you can conquer this!!
As someone who struggled with recurring cellulitis infections (bad staph infections that can become very dangerous) due to picking, I am very familiar with the healing process. Keeping your sores moist (but not wet) is the best. So if scabs peel off, that’s okay. At my worst, my dermatologist recommended using aquaphor over neosporin because aquaphor keeps it moist but also lets it breathe/heal.
I recommend using the SCAMP method found in the book “overcoming body focused repetitive behaviors” by Charles S Mansueto. If it’s ace sort for you, then get a fidget toy and instead of reaching for your chest, reach for the fidget toy. They have tons online and you just have to find the right fidget toy for you. For me, it was spinner rings I found on Etsy. Other than that you can try to get liquid bandaid or superglue and cover your fingertips so that you can’t feel your chest with your fingers and thus eliminating the urge to pick with ‘scanning’ if that’s is something you engage in.
Do be careful if infections, especially staph since that is common in skin pickers. Signs of staph are pain, swelling, a golden discharge and very slow healing time. Staph spreads very quick and easy to other open wounds in your body so seek medical attention if you notice any of these signs.
it’s important to know your triggers. I have 2 bracelets from habitaware called Keen that are calibrated to my hand motions and they will vibrate every time I reach my hand and start performing the kicking action. Becoming aware is HUGE. Picking can be very mindless and we don’t even know we are doing it sometimes.
Keep a journal of when you engage, your mental state before/during/after, how long the episode lasted for….etc. this will provide some insight and allow you to become more aware.
Also the supplement NAC (N-acetylcysteine) is the only scientifically proven supplement to help reduce skin picking behaviors.
I’m a very well seasoned picker who is about at a 95% recovery and I have many other tips I can share if interested. I hope you found my above advise helpful. Although I have an extensive medical background, I am not a doctor so it’s always best to establish a dermatologist and therapist to help with this condition.
You are not alone. You are strong. You are beautiful and you can and WILL conquer this.
Warmest Regards my dear,
Hannah
Hi Livy,
I used to pick at my breasts not long ago, to where they were covered in gross sores. I also would just look down and start picking. I totally get that! I also used to pick at my arms, face, back, neck, and bikini line. I still do this, but it is not what it used to be, and all of the gross sores are gone (but there are still scars and dark spots.) What I found to work is that while I am picking, I use positive self-talk... even if I continue, as in "I love my skin", "my skin is beautiful", " I am going to think positive today"... anything good!! I found that when I pick, I am filled with negative self-talk and guilt afterwards and I think that fuels it. When I consciously think positive it's almost like the picking loses its power and I don't pick as long and am able to walk away easier.
Also, pampering yourself worked wonders! As in, wash your face in the morning with just water and a rag and add moisturizer with sunscreen or moisturizer and sunscreen. At night use a gentle facewash and add moisturizer. Also, add moisturizer to your whole body during the day as many times as you want. I was able to accomplish this recently for a week without picking at all! I became stressed since then and have fallen out of the habit, but I know it is just a matter of time until I get back on the horse! Also reminding yourself that when you pick... you are actually pushing the puss backwards also... just like a pimple pops from the top it also pops from the back and breaks into the deeper layers of your skin... which causes the pimple to reoccur, get infected, or scar, which is why it is best to leave them alone. I know knowing this has not stopped my many times, but it has stopped me sometimes and I'm sure it will work for you, too!
I can't wait to read the post by you in the future that says you have got this under control!! I know that day will come!
Girl my heart goes out to you because I know the struggle so well! I started picking at my arms in my teens. So badly that I avoided doing or wearing anything that showed my arms. Then I started to pick at my legs, that was easier to overcome by wearing jeans and such. I'm in my late 30s now and for years I've been horribly picking at my breasts. I can sometimes stop myself for a couple weeks and I will feel more confident as the sores and marks slowly fade away, and then my anxiety gets the best of me and I will pick for hours until they're bloody. I feel so awful and insecure with myself, often hating myself so much. I'm married now to a wonderful man and it only makes me feel worse about myself. Men are visually stimulated. He wants to see my body, boobs and all! But I can't show him, because there is nothing sexy about scabbed, scarred up breasts. My problem is hindering our sex life and making me even more depressed. I am working on building my relationship with God which really helps with a lot of my depression, anxiety issues that lead to my picking. I don't know if you have faith but I highly recommend delving into your Bible. Even just a chapter a day. Reminding yourself that our Creator made the perfectly beautiful YOU! When I'm doing well in my routine (reading a chapter in my Bible, reading a daily devotional, memorizing uplifting scriptures, meditating in prayer, etc ) I do so much better and physically look better. But then I falter again and fall into the self destructive behavior again. It's an endless battle. But nothing, NOTHING is too big for God! "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me". I just wish that even when I overcome this battle, I could get rid of the scars that remain! If anyone here has any advice, remedies, anything that helps with improving skin appearance I would be very much appreciated! I just discovered this forum and knowing that I'm not alone makes me feel so much better. I know the pain, struggle, self hatred, etc. and I just want you all to know I am praying for you!!!
Romans 15:13
"I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in Him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit!"
I want this so badly for all of you, and myself too! Let us never give up hope!