Skin stopping destroying your sex life....

Hi all. First off, it really helps to know that other people out there are dealing with this issue. This summer, I realized just how much damage I've inflicted on my skin. It was tough, but i'm finally owning up to it, and making an effort to stop it. As long as i can remember i've picked at my scabs and pimples. Now i have scabs and blotchy scars on my upper arms, upper leg and bikini area. I worry that some scars will never heal. I feel disgusted with myself because of it. While the fact that i have an issue with ingrowns and a bit of body acne is a factor that needs to be taken into account, I now understand that i've made it look so much worse, and i need to stop!! I get stressed out everytime i make plans to go to the beach. I hate that i can't wear shorts. I've tried. I put them on, but then one look at my legs, and i am overwhelmed with feelings of shame, i can't do it. How would i explain these marks to anyone? So the main point of this post. This issue is stopping me from allowing myself to be intimate with anyone, and its driving me crazy! I cry a lot lately. I'm in my early 20's and i want that chance to be with someone, but i don't believe anyone will ever love me if they find out my "secret"....I feel like everything needs to heal before i can feel confident enough to open up, but right now the thought of being close to someone leaves me feeling shame and sadness, because how will i explain these scars? I've never been in a relationship before, and i can't stand feeling like this anymore...and i shouldn't let my skin stop me, but it is.