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Accountability partner/group
Hi all,
I am on a sloooooow recovery journey and thought it might be super helpful to have an accountability partner or even a group started (we can use whatsapp or email or this forum as a platform).
Some moments/days are harder than others and my poor husband is so sick of hearing me talk about my skin and my struggles to not pick (or cope when I do).
My weakness is uninflamed cloggea pores. Just seeing the bumps or unevenness under my skin give me immediate anxiety and the urge to squeeze is so strong except I almost always regret it and create a mess. The few times it is a success are what I hold onto and it's as though I'm always just chasing that high. I wish I could retrain my brain to recall the bad times that are more frequent, than the good times. Sigh.
Never used whatsapp, have to download to try it out. Overall great idea...what is your screen name on the app if I want to add you?
Also, what are you doing to try to minimize your urges? You must implement some sort of strategy and try your best to stick to it. If one strategy does not work, move on to the next. Its a constant battle with oneself, but you need to try your best to have some sort of backup strategy in place to help stop the urges. The first thing to do is to start taking care of yourself and your skin.
An accountability group is a good idea, I would love to be a part of it! How are we going to do this?
. I would love to partner with someone. I started picking my scalp more than a year ago. It started because I had a dry scaly patch at the edge of my hairline on my forehead. But then I just kept going onto other areas of my scalp and sometimes I make it bleed. Sometimes I wonder if it is a desire to make my scalp perfectly flat, with no bumps or scabs. This of course is a vicious circle! I am mostly aware of when I do it. I do it when I'm sitting in a particular chair and I'm reading or sitting with my tablet. My hand on my cheek, and then before I know it, I'm picking again. The other time is when I'm reading in bed. That's a tough one. As I was sitting here reading your posts, I wanted to pick, but instead, I tried the soothing motion of running my flat hand from front to back of my head, over and over. It worked. I'd be curious to know what the psychological reasons are for why we are compelled to do this to ourselves. I do know that I need to stop! Obviously this accountability group hasn't started, but what if we just decide to do the 30 day Challenge, and check in every day? Is anyone with me?
What would be the rules of the 30 day challenge? I think that there is more to simply abstaining from picking that needs to take place. Good skin care is necessary in order to distract and make the whole experience feel like a real self-betterment journey instead of simply a willpower struggle.
I think a 30-day challenge is a great start. Do you guys want to use this forum as a platform or we can start a group via email I suppose? Or is there another way to start a group while respecting everyone’s privacy? What do you think?
I'm not a fan of this particular forum...some other platform would be nice. Where we can post photos and share ideas. This forum has such a terrible layout. .. can't even space paragraphs. The whole feel and vibe of skinpick is simply barren. I would hope to be more supportive and introspective on a platform which allows for decent human communication.
We could start a Messenger group, but then we'd have to friend each other on Facebook first, which I don't have a problem with.
Perhaps an email group would be better?
Perhaps an email group would be better?
I would be ok with Facebook. Email might be slow and tedious? Can we group chat on Facebook? I don't really use it much so don't know if they updated new features by now.
Snookums, I am just as compelled as you to focus on the psychological aspects of this behavior. I've noticed some of the posts on this forum center around the anatomy of skin or delusional parasitosis. I think we need to be a tad bit more introspective and pay attention to our inner well being.
I agree with you both with regards to the psychology of the behaviour.
I’m also good with a Facebook group. So you want to send me your Facebook names and I’ll start the group up?
Karen knuff are you talking about a Messenger group?
Karen knuff are you talking about a Messenger group?
It would be best if the group organizer gives their Facebook profile so that the others can add them. I have been stalked for the past three years and therefore prefer to be private on the internet.
Look for the group One Foot In Front Of The Other on Facebook and I will add you guys to it. Once you’re added, it’s up to you if you want me to keep it closed (people can find the group and see who’s in it but can’t see posts) or private (only we can see the group even exists). Right now there should only be 2 people in it when you look for it and there are no pictures posted on the cover.
There are multiple groups with that name/no photo and with two people joined. Do you have anything in the description so that I can differentiate? Or can you post a distinctive main photo so that I can easily differentiate which one it is?
I just discovered that too! Couldn't find our group. There were about 15 groups with the same name.
Snookums ...its a group with two people. I am one of the members ...my profile photo is of me sitting by a lake surrounded by green foliage. The group does not have any description yet...so no main photo and no description. Just go by the members and you will see my profile photo once you click the group.
I added a cover photo/quote that reads ‘Trust your Journey’. Let me know if you still have troubles finding it!