Sedatives to help

I have been picking in some form my whole life. Some times throughout my life were worse than others. But I was thinking lately that about 2 years ago, I hardly picked and I wore these sexy clothes all the time, and felt great. i was really wondering why during that time I wasn't picking so much. And then I realized that I smoked pot for every day for like 3 years straight. It was something my husband and I did before and after we were married. Something to do at the end of the night to relax and watch tv, or sometimes with friends. But I never had the urge to pick when I was stoned because I was so relaxed and calm and my mind wasn't running at a million miles like it usually does. We are not smokers anymore, and haven't been for about 2 years now, but my point is some kind of sedative might work to help these kind of anxiety/obsessive compulsions. My husband is bipolar and sometimes is prescribed Xanax for his own anxiety, sometimes he will offer me one to relax, and I get so relaxed that I eventually just want to go to bed, and bedtime is my time I usually pick, I try to brush my teeth wash my face without spending two hours in front of the mirror. And when I am all relaxed and sedated from the xanax I DO just go to bed. Now I am not an advocate for drug use or using other peoples prescriptions, but the point is valid. The same goes for after you have a few alcoholic drinks you are relaxed. It's just a theory. As soon as I can get into my psychiatrist I am going to ask her about it.