I'm 40 & my picking has gotten worse

I am so thankful to have come across this site again. I only about 4 years ago finally told a Dr. About my skin picking problem. I waited all those years because it is embarrassing. I really wanted help & still do with stopping this destructive behavior. All the Drs & counselors just blow it off like it is something that I can just stop doing like smoking cigarettes. Which was much eeasier to quit. Some Drs haven't even heard of such a thing so I feel violated and embarrassed even more. My picking has gotten so bad that I have big sores covering my backside, one side of my shins of my leg, and of course the top part of my arms. I pray that one day before I get a serious infection I will find a way to stop this destructive behavior and live a "normal" life. I use to have beautiful skin now I am covered in scares. Who will ever want someone who looks like she has a serious disease. I am not the only one in my family who has this problem. My son is showing signs of this also. I really hope I get answers before his digging becomes so servere like mine has. I am using my phone to do this so my grammar is not the best and hopefully spell check didn't mess up to many words lol thank you for taking the time to read this I am so thankful I am not alone in this Battle.