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Bernie , 12 Jun 2009

Looking for a friend to talk to...

Hello, I have been skin picking for about a year now and it is only on my face which is on of the most obvious places. I don't go out with friends, keeps me from going on job interviews I desperatly need, and it ruins my relationships with others. I just did it really bad again on Tues so I am going to be sitting at home for about a week waiting for it to heal. I was so happy last week and had the best time hanging out with friends and doing things I want to do. I can't be stuck inside any longer. I want to meet someone on here that I can talk to whenever I need it. I hope there is someone on here who would want to.
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2133Davis
June 12, 2009
hey i've been lookin for someone to talk to as well, that actually understands how it is...seems like i've been the only one and i've been dealing with this about 4 years now. i dropped out of the college i was going to mostly because of this to take online classes. Not going to class for a week here or there didn't work out too well for me. Now I've been losing friends and going out less, but as of last week or so, I've been determined to 'fix' my life and get things back on track, but i've been there done that b4, somehow i end up always getting back to how things were. I haven't given up and i wouldn't mind being there for someone else that has had some similar struggles...i'm tired of ditching my social life and the people i care about over this
Bernie
June 12, 2009
I totally know how you feel. I actually left a job I really liked last year and took a new one cuz I thought it would be better. And this time last year I started really picking and I didn't go to the new job so they fired me. Now I have been looking for a job for awhile and I can't start school again till I find one. I always picked a little bit if I had a pimple or something but for some reason my OCD tendencies turned into picking my face. I will pick at things that aren't even bad that if I left alone they would go away and no one would even notice them. I leave pretty big sores on my face that look horrible and I can't go out for days at a time. Last week was the happiest I had been in a long time I went out with friends, rollerbladed, got to sit outside and then Tues of this week I gave in and I look horrible again. I'm so depressed now and get to have a weekend of sitting alone at home by myself while my friends have fun. I missed out on a bonfire tonight cuz I look bad and I hid in my room all day because my sisters had friends over. I want to turn around my life and be happy and have fun so it would be wonderful to talk to you. I hope to hear from you again.
2133Davis
June 13, 2009
it's great to hear from someone that has been through this cause it's so hard of a thing to talk about with people that haven't had a problem with it. I just joined this forum earlier this week to try to find someone to talk to after having gone through another couple of days of picking at my face and not wanting to go out. The couple friends i have tried to explain the skin picking thing to didn't really get it at all, but i guess it does sound crazy, wanting to have good skin but then destroying it at the same time. Also being a guy with the problem, they act like it's weird that I'd care about how my skin looks. They think so what about going out with my face looking bad, but that's easy to say when it's not your face lol I feel totally embarassed for friends to see me after i'd been picking at my face and it makes me feel like it's probably more obvious than it really even is. I wish i wasn't so self conscious like i am, might be what got me into having a problem with it to begin with. I've also always been a little ocd, a little bit of a perfectionist and i've always had a bit of anxiety. It probably is completely normal to pick at something here or there but some time around when I was 18/19, i got into a habit of picking at my face in the mirror nearly everyday. I'd feel bad about any acne on my skin and it'd make me want to pick at it. Then i got to where I wanted to mess with blackheads and what other imperfections. Now I easily can go a few days without doing any excessive picking but every week or so, i have a day or a couple days in a row where I can't control it and end up ruining my nearly healed skin. I feel so down on myself after I do it, cause I kno that means i just destroyed my self-confidence for another week and means i'm going to be antisocial for another week. This week when i did it, I felt even lower than normal, cause I thought i was close to being over it, but guess not. It's silly how our happiness all rides on how our face looks but i'm determined to change that and hopefully this is good way to help make it possible. it'd be amazing to be able to enjoy life everyday and not have this holding me back..life is tough enough how it is. It's great to hear from you and I hope we can keep talking.
2133Davis
June 13, 2009
do you use yahoo, msn, aim, facebook, any of that? I chat on aim or facebook a bit, especially the days where i feel trapped in the house, so maybe I could catch you on one of those.
hottsoup123
June 13, 2009
Hey ! I'll talk to you. Haha. Well... I just wanna day that it's okay, as you can see, you're not alone (: And just because you pick doesn't mean you shouldn't go out with friends. I'm sure your friends would ask.. Just don't tell them if you don't want, that you did it. And if u decide to, they should like you the same. I'm realizing that my scars and gross scabs from this disorder will stay on me. And I hate them, and u feel ugly with them, but you have to just tell yourself to forget it.. Because as long as you respect people and be a good person, this horrible disorder cant change peoples mind about you. (:
hottsoup123
June 13, 2009
Hey ! I'll talk to you. Haha. Well... I just wanna say that it's okay, as you can see, you're not alone (: And just because you pick doesn't mean you shouldn't go out with friends. I'm sure your friends would ask.. Just don't tell them if you don't want, that you did it. And if u decide to, they should like you the same. I'm realizing that my scars and gross scabs from this disorder will stay on me. And I hate them, and u feel ugly with them, but you have to just tell yourself to forget it.. Because as long as you respect people and be a good person, this horrible disorder cant change peoples mind about you. (: and if it does... Then, in my opinion, they are reallyyyyy stupid. lol
Bernie
June 13, 2009
Yes I do. My AIM is heartshapedbx2 but I don't use it alot. I do have a facebook. How would I find yours?

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