denial

I believe the most poignant and thought provoking statement in the above website is ---------------------------->> Denial of denial: This can be a difficult concept for many people to identify in themselves, but is a major barrier to changing hurtful behaviors.

i think everyone who has dermatillomania or any type of obsessive or compulsive behaviour should read the information on the above mentioned site and seriously consider what part denial might be playing in their struggles. it does require some serious introspection, though. .............................................................................. Denial of awareness is pertinent ...................................... as is Denial of cycle

kmj First, confession-I think I might be addicted to this site! Denial is very powerful. You know you are in denial when you make lots of excuses. Just because you know what your problem is does not mean you are not in denial. Corny but true, "Denial is not a river in Egypt." Trouble with your own denial-look back in time. It's usually a family problem. Your compulsions may have been a coping mechanism for a family member's addiction. Denial goes way back in my family and my parents generation is full of it. The more I learn about it, the more I hear it when my parents, step parents, aunts and uncles speak. Scary. Denial may also exist in your family for not so obvious reasons. It is a family issue, though. I don't believe it exists in isolation. It can be very elusive and is easily overlooked. Your family is in denial if they know you have been doing this for a number of years or more and blow it off, tell you to just quit, think your doing it for attention, do it themselves, belittle you (maybe why you do it in the first place). Denial is a BIG BLACK HOLE in your life that you have to look into-and, it takes just as much work and consciousness as picking but for many I think picking is the surface of what is really going on. Some books that have helped me with familial denial: Adult Children of Alcoholics (read it even if you are unsure-it might surprise you), and The Birth Order Book. The latter can shed light on family dynamics. See the site above and/or Google denial-and not to make travel plans to Egypt!

kmj Me agian. Try this: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/denial/SR00043 : )

for all new people here .... denial is a serious component to address with just about any issue and it certainly comes into play with compulsive behaviours and the like ... read through the information about it a couple of times and seriously consider how denial is very likely playing a major part in overcoming this ... and possibly so many other things